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RespectDECISIONS

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Women are not more emotional than men. The man you say is not emotional will easily show anger. A man who easily gets angry is as emotional as a woman who easily falls in love. Being emotional is not just about being mushy. It’s about different feelings. The difference is that men are socialized to show emotions that validate their manliness as expected by society. Feelings like anger, but women are socialized to show emotions that make them soft, like love, pity, and vulnerability. Men and women are just differently emotional. Recently I published a post on a platform asking Christians to wait for sex till marriage, and a guy replied saying, "Debit alerts will have to wait too...” See, premarital sex is a sin, but premarital spending isn’t. If you spend on your woman only because of sex, you need a prostitute.    Women deserved to be loved, Men, young Men, be patient. Never take advantage of her, especially when she is vulnerable. Also, people who cannot live without sex thin...

BeforeHUSBANDHOOD

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 It’s the same way you spend years studying to be a professional in a given career that you also learn how to be a good husband. Nobody was born a great husband. You have to be intentional about the kind of husband you want to be, even before marriage   I randomly journal how I’ll treat my wife, how I’ll response to conflict, how I’ll love to raise the kids. I know all these might not be enough & the woman I’ll end up with might bring better ways perspective, but the crux is that I’m making effort to be a great hubby.   I do sit down and make up scenarios in my head and how I’ll respond. I observe my weaknesses & call myself out. Yes, there’s no perfect man, but help make yourself easily lovable for the woman who’ll end up with you. Start now to work on those weaknesses that might ruin your marriage   The reason many educated and successful men are not great husbands is because they didn’t give “ husbandhood ” the amount of time, resources and effort they put...